So what happens when couples who are both working decide to start a family and become first time parents? There will be a lot of adjustments to be made in every aspect like one’s role in the family, the resources and most especially the emotions will change. Starting a family is another chapter in one’s life. There are so many things to consider when you decide to build your own family.
The things the author is experiencing right now are all part of what we call transition period. Father’s role will be something like this:
· Protector, defender of your family.
· Prioritize your family above all. Provide them the basic necessities in life such as food, shelter, and clothing. Add to the list are emotional, physical, and mental aspects for your family.
This may seem very difficult at the beginning but having a positive attitude on how will these works out will make it lot easier for you and you family.
Another thing that will be greatly affected in starting a family will TIME. Your commitment to your new-born child and also with your family will eat up most of your time.
For first time Dads, you will be amazed by the amount of time this child demands especially in the first three to four months. First time Dads will sleep a lot less than they were used to before pregnancy and birth. New born babies will wake up in wee hours in the morning to be breastfeed/bottle-feed, change the little one’s diaper and make the infant sleep. This is an arduous task but very rewarding especially seeing your tot smile back at you as if saying “Thank you Dad for helping fall asleep”.
One of the many surprises a lot for new Daddy’s experience is how their relationship changes with their better half after the baby arrives. These things will happen especially when the Mother is breastfeeding the infant will be the first priority with her, Mom will get less sleep and the newborn needs more attention. Even when the baby is asleep, she will just not have the physical or emotional capacity to focus on you. The playmate you enjoyed before baby won't be back in the same form after the baby arrives.
With that said there are some really good things about a post-baby relationship. Both of you working together for a common good - baby, family, home life can be a really uniting experience. While the infatuation and lusty feelings of the pre-baby life may decline by nature and necessity, love deepens and expands when baby makes three. If you let it, and work toward it, you will find a whole new level of love, commitment and connection that you did not know existed.
With regard to partner, Sexual Intercourse will be greatly affected for quite a while after the baby arrives. Your spouse’s emotions and moods will be different so be patient, you can still cuddle but here’s a rule no sex for about one to three months after the infant arrived. Ask your doctor and he/she will give the signal to get back on track.
Are you ready to become a Father?
